the journey of love begins when the sperm dating with the ovum, born, stop for a while when the two becomes one, then ended when the priest say from dust to dust.. some ppl might skip the second station because they answer God's calling, some other ppl still looking for the stop, some other ppl might not even reach the first station when their journey reach the finish line..
every journey has its own story, i havent reach the stop yet, but in here i will share some of the holes that i fall into, hoping that some of the tips can help you guys (or gals) to avoid the same mistakes that i did.
1. love is blind
aku bukan orang yg bego yg bakal jatuh dalam perangkap kayak gini, this is how i think.. until i fall in love..
sehabis itu semuanya menjadi blur.. the feeling is great, tapi aku menjadi buta akan hal2 laen.. blind about the direction we need to go, blind to see the signs she gave, and worst of all i am blind not to be able to see her needs..
be sensitive, pay attention and dont take things for granted..
but there is another blind yg bikin gua bener2 grateful.. setiap kali gua ngeliat cermin i would say, God must be blind to love me despite of all my sin :)
"kalo cinta itu buta, buat apa ada bikini"
2. and they live happily ever after... the end
kalo masih ada yg percaya ini... please please please stop watching romantic movies...
i dont believe on any of those movies (but deep down inside i'm hoping to live that kind of life)
tadinya aku percaya, kalo udah cayank2an itu pasti semuanya berjalan dengan indah... i learn it the hard way, its not (lu bisa tanya ke pasangan yg udah jalan agak lama)
bukannya mau nakut2in, but be prepare when things not working according to your plan.. work it out..
well, the good news is, there is live that is happily ever after.. ask God :)
3. kemesraan ini, janganlah cepat berlalu
falling in love is not love, u just fall.. love begins after u hit the ground.. yg penting disini adalah apa yg anda lakukan setelah itu, will u help each other to get up then journey together after that, through all difficulties together?
when u r looking for love, dont look for the feeling, the sensation, the goosebumps.. it will fade away, then u will ask yourself, is the love has gone?
i'm not saying those things are bad, just be careful because feelings can divert you from the important thing in love, loving someone is not just 1 month or 1 year thing, its a lifetime commitment
4. if you really love someone, you need to let him/her go
i think this is the best mistake i ever made in relationship..
when i broke up (ugghhh my chest hurts thinking about it..... anyway) that time i think maybe she needs space, so i step back.. i always think that love can solve all the problems (so naive)..
after 1 month, i'm just a zombie
after 6 month, nothing happen
after 12 month, is that her walking with another man
well, kalo kalian bukan orang yg tabah kayak gua.. please dont be so naive..
to let her go doesnt mean to just sit back and wait for the problems to go away... you need to work it out... go and do something about it... yes, there are times you need to give space.. but dont just wait for cupid to shoot his bow... you need to work it out, together if possible..
to let her go means memberikan dia kebebasan untuk memilih apa yg terbaik untuk dirinya, kalau setelah semua usaha anda dia tetep jg memilih meninggalkanmu, hormati pilihannya and move on with your live, be happy, u can join the jomblo2 ceria club...
i will give you perfect example for this.. free will.. kenapa Tuhan kasih kita free will? karena Tuhan sangat mencintai kita, dan dia mau kita mencintai dia dengan kehendak bebas kita, dengan sukarela, dengan sepenuh hati..
kalau anda merasa sedih abis putus cinta, well, now you know how God feels when u r lazy to go to the church :p
5. the love of my life
pada zaman dahulu kala, gk ada yg namanya pria atau wanita, semua manusia punya 2 kepala, 4 kaki dan 4 tangan, mereka tidak butuh satu sama lain dan mereka menjadi begitu sombong.. zeus menjadi murka melihat manusia, maka dia mengirimkan halilintar yg membelah semua manusia menjadi 2.. sejak saat itu setiap manusia mencari pasangan dari dirinya yg hilang..
selama ini gua percaya kalau hidupku masih lom lengkap tanpa pasangan hidupku, jadi aku mencari seorang pasangan yg bisa membuatku menjadi lengkap.. and i will never find one... karena apa yg kurang dari kita bukan kita dapatkan dari pasangan kita.. aku percaya Tuhan udah membuat setiap manusia dengan sempurna menurut gambarnya, lengkap (mungkin bukan dalam fisik dan mental), indah di matanya..
if you are looking for someone that can make u complete, u will never satisfy.. dalam perkawinan itu bukan 1/2 + 1/2 = 1, tapi 1 + 1 = 1 (i dont think God invent mathematics, my math teacher will be screaming)
"Demikianlah mereka bukan lagi dua, melainkan satu"
jadi kalo anda merasa blom lengkap, pergi dulu sono cari apa yg hilang..
another false concept from the story is, there is someone specially made only for you.. the truth is, the choice is in your hands.. (read how to find your one true love by bo sanchez if you want to know more about this)
6. cinta, semakin banyak yg anda berikan, semakin banyak yg anda terima
great! skr aku tinggal cari seseorang yg cocok, terus gua kasih cinta banyak2 aja... the thing is, kalo gagal lu bakal bangkrut.. invest in other area also, dont put all your eggs in one basket.. maksudnya bukan nyuruh lu orang jadi playboy... i'm talking about another kind of love, not just romantic love... love your family, love your frens, love your community, love mother nature, love your hobby, love your passion, love your job, love your neighbor, love your enemy and the best investment is love God...
be smart, makin banyak lu invest kemungkinan berhasil makin gede.. biarpun setengah investasi lu gagal, dari setengah yg laen pasti mencukupi.. dan kalo lu invest di God's bank, cukup untuk seumur idup, soalnya gua denger2 bunganya gede...
gk punya modal? nih gua kasih... after all, love is free right.. so start investing now :D
7. God is love
totally agree... this is the reason why i want to know more about God...
but the only problem now is, ppl tend to minimize the meaning of love.. kadang orang cuma bisa ngeliat romantic love.. coba aja tanya orang yg lagi patah hati.. setiap 30 menit pasti ngeliat ke atas dan teriak, Tuhan kau sungguh kejam, tidak adakah cinta untukku di dunia ini... atau lebih parah lagi kalo gk percaya lagi ama Tuhan... God is love, no love = no God... yg kayak ginian jg bisa terjadi kalo kehilangan anggota keluarga...
kalau anda merasa sedih dan sendirian, have faith in God
Karena allah telah berfirman: "Aku sekali-kali tidak akan membiarkan engkau dan Aku sekali-kali tidak akan meninggalkan engkau."
well, udah 7 point, banyak jg ngecapnya... semuanya cuma personal opinion dan sebagian lagi hiperbola... maap kalo ada yg tidak berkenan.. hope this can bring some laughter or can be help to somebody..
i will end this with the greatest love story of all time
I asked Jesus "How much do you love me?"
"This Much." He answered and he stretched out his arms and died
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